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I am now pregnant with our first child, and she was just told that she may have problems conceiving. I want to share my joys with her, but instead I find that I am trying to downplay my happiness when I speak with her.

Any suggestions? It indeed does sound like your friend is jealous of your situation, and it is admirable that you are both aware of this and sensitive to her feelings. Although you may have always been incredibly close and shared everything, it appears that you may have reached a point in your life where that is no longer possible or at least for now.

It must be very hard for her to watch you move on in your life and change in so many ways, ways that she would like for herself as well, when she is not progressing at your rate.

While you may want to be able to speak with her about your married life, your excitement about your pregnancy and everything else you are going through, it appears that if you want to save this friendship, you will need to focus on the things that you still have in common and put the emphasis more on her life, than on yours, for the time being.

Granted, you have a real need to discuss your thoughts and feelings, but I would try to share these things with other friends or family, people who are perhaps jealous or even resentful of what you are experiencing. It is anyway important for you to establish friendships with other people in your situation, young married women who are starting families. You will want these friends as you prepare for you birth and care for a newborn, etc. While you do not want to exclude your friend from baby shopping, labor classes, and other things going on with you, I would let her be the one to initiate such conversation.

Follow her lead. The more sensitive you are to her feelings, the more she will hopefully be able to eventually share in your life.

For now, I would make sure to spend time with her where the two of you are alone and doing the things she enjoys. Ask about her job, find out what she is up to, if you are able, see if you can introduce her to single friends of you and your husbands.

But speak to her, try to get her to open up about her life, her fears, her circumstances, which will help you understand what she is going through. It would probably also mean a lot to her if you wanted her to come to the hospital with you when you give birth, or if you make sure she is one of the first people you call, one of the first to see the baby.

Make her feel special and reassure her how important she is in your life. Most likely she is feeling that now that you are married and even more so, once you have a baby, you will no longer need her. She is probably worried that your husband and baby will replace her altogether and that you will continue your life while she is left behind, single and alone. If your friendship has survived for 20 years, it is one that you should make every effort to maintain.

While you may be going through a rough patch right now, a true friend who knows and loves you is invaluable, and that is something you both should be for each other. You need to remember that there is more to talk about than your husband and your pregnancy, and hopefully soon your friend will realize that she is a very important part of your life and can be happy for your marriage and baby, even if those are not yet realities for her. Much luck! This question was answered by Sara Esther Crispe.

Life happens, people go through different stages of life at different times Being a friend means means being there for each other through thick and thin. How can you hope to make a marraige work if you can't even keep a simple friendship alive and well? Stay away from jealous friends. I had a friend like that. We grew up together and have known each other for 25 years. Ever since I got my dreamjob she has completely withdrawn herself from my life.

The examples of her jealousy are endless. She has ignored me for over a year. She even managed to ignore me on her own birthday party! I had to resort to writing e-mails because she simply would not see me. She turned 30 a couple of days ago and somehow I managed to write a nice text message to congradulate her.

Her reaction was positive, and I am relieved she is mature enough to respond in the best possible way. However, this does not change a thing. She left me standing in the cold at a time when I needed my friends most. My advice? Their jealousy will NOT wean off. The fact they are jealous is an indication of how they truly feel about you in the first place. They are NOT worth your time and energy. Reach out to other people that can embrace happiness and that want you to be happy!

Jealousy is a friendship killer The comment from the lady from Matteson, IL, really hit a cord with me. Not only was my ex-BFF extremely jealous of me when I started dating my now hubby but so was her mother!

My ex-BFF's mother threw a tantrum and refused to have him over at her house. It's not like he was some felon or something; he was quite upstanding in the community and one of the most eligible bachelors in town. I was so flabbergasted at how my ex-BFF and her mother acted once I became involved with him. My ex-BFF even demanded I break it off with him and gave no solid reason other than that he was rude to her, but I know and knew then that that was a flat out lie.

Everyone else except for a few haters love and still do love my husband. Whenever we are in our hometown now, people still fall over themselves to talk to him. I truly believe that my ex-BFF wanted him for herself and so did her mother because of his success in life. Thing is my ex-BFF was married at the time Reply. We did almost everything together. We are both divorced with grown children.

I had my kids very young and my children and I had some issues in the past. She constaltly tells me how perfect her son and daughter are. She has 3 children one daughter has nothing to do with her.

Finally, after it kept happening several times when we were on the phone, I confronted her about it. Of couse she denied it, so I stopped calling her. She was in the hospital several times, her daughter came to my job to tell me that her mother was in the hospital.

Even when she came home I sent cards and continued being there for her. Jealous Friend Your friend is jealous, because you have everything she wants that she doesn't have herself. You need to be honest with her and talk to her about her jealousy.

If you can't work this out, stop being friends with her. I, myself, had the same problem with social gatherings. My Asperger's Syndrome didn't enable me to have "normal" social relationships with other people, and I got jealous of anyone I thought had "perfect" social skills.

I lost my temper and even hit a few people I thought made me angry! Thankfully, I have a friend from childhood who understood and became a Special Education teacher - she told me I was the one who helped her understand her students better and thanked me for it!

Jealous Women My best friend of more than 18 years turned on me when I got engaged and married before her. She helped my husband pick out the ring, was my maid of honor and everything, and yet she turned on me out of insecurity.

Her long-time boyfriend dragged his feet about getting married, and she took it out on me. She started talking to me very sarcastically, making snotty remarks about my appearance like accusing me of having plastic surgery, and was very hateful.

Even her mother, who was very close to me, was jealous that I got married first. Her mom didn't come to my bridal shower I was shocked at both of them. But some of my other friends told me that she was always competitive and insecure, so I ended the friendship. It was hard but she gave me no choice.

I have a friend that has distanced herself because I am now engaged and about to be married. She really started when she found out I was getting close to my now fiance. She has been my best friend over half of my life now.. I love her soo much.. I respect her, trust her, but she has been so cruel to me, saying things like she's afraid to lose me and she knows when people get married and throw away their friends.

I have never given her the reason to feel like this, now she has done this to me several times when she becomes involved in a relationship she pushes me to the side, but i have never done this. I have went over and beyond to let her know that I love her and I need her more than ever in my life because I am getting married and plus we shouldnt let anything come between us, but she just continually says things are different now and everything.

I am so sick of this ongoing, I have tried everything, but I do not want to lose my friend and I have expressed this. Same rank! Just ask her if she is jealous. You'd be suprised how many women will tell you the truth. If she is a "true" friend she will be honest and depending on how she answers, it can be "beginning " of a better friendship. Not all women are jealous of other women starting a family; sometimes it is how we are interperting the friends: words, behavior that make us feel that way.

Feeling are not facts. Again, how long have you two been friends? Just ask! The mother-to-be will only talk about her baby and her pregnancy and I for one find that truly annoying. I have friends that have stopped calling me because they got married or had babies.

I don't believe that the single friend is the enemy.

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Toggle navigation. Categories Discussions Sign in. May in General chat. Hi all, just want a bit of advice

I am now pregnant with our first child, and she was just told that she may have problems conceiving. I want to share my joys with her, but instead I find that I am trying to downplay my happiness when I speak with her. Any suggestions?

I feel for ya! Oh this is totally normal, I have been there. I am sure some of my friends felt that way when I got engaged. One day it will be your turn!

My Best Friend’s Life Is Perfect and It Makes Me Sick

When you get engaged, you want your friends to be just as happy as you are. But the truth is, some of them might not be. A few of your closest pals may be just a tiny bit jealous of your new relationship status. They could be mad about losing one of their single girlfriends or your friend could be upset that you're getting married before she is. Or it could be a totally different reason that just doesn't make sense. She makes self-deprecating comments about being one of the only single girls in your friend group now. She has something to say about every one of your wedding decisions. Every time you say something about your wedding, she tries to one-up you by bringing up something cool from her life.

I Was Jealous of My Best Friend’s Marriage, But Found Out She’s Jealous of My Singleness

My best friend of almost ten years got engaged last week on her birthday. As her friend, my immediate action was to be thrilled for her and I was. We had spent the last few weeks talking about how her significant other was behaving more oddly than usual. Then I started thinking: why not me?

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None of my close friends have gotten married or even engaged yet, but I've got to admit that when the first one does, it's going to put me on a roller coaster of emotions. On one hand, if the friend is marrying someone I like, and I believe in their relationship, I'm going to be so happy for them! But on the other hand, I'm going to be totally freaked out. It's not that I don't have someone I could see myself spending forever with, but it would be that everyone is getting married , and that just feels like such an ADULT thing that I'm nowhere near ready for.

My best friend got engaged; I should be happy, but instead I’m just jealous

When my best friend and her husband tied the knot three years ago, I stood by her side as one of her bridesmaids. I was genuinely happy for her and the new chapter in life she was beginning. My feelings of discontent seem a little ridiculous now.

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I totally feel like crap about it, but before you judge me, let me explain. I knew her boyfriend was going to pop the question to her for a while, so her engagement was no real surprise. I definitely anticipated this happening but it still stings. I hate that she gets to start the rest of her life before me. So when my best friend FaceTimed me to tell me she was engaged and show me her ring, I immediately felt sad, jealous and irritated.

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My best friend and I have always been like sisters, but the last few years it seems that I got married a few years ago to a great guy, and she still isn't married.

Your best friend enthusiastically shares some big news. You say all the right things and display the right emotions. You really want to feel happy for your friend. You really want to get rid of these feeling of envy.

Why I Was Jealous Of My Best Friend’s Engagement And Why That’s OK

With the right state of mind, you can overcome it. Living the single life definitely has its perks. Suddenly, your independent lifestyle seems pretty dull and frankly, a bit lonely. Instead of letting engagement jealousy get to you, brush your shoulders off and focus on you.

Jealous Friend

A bunch of girls I used to know in high school have gotten engaged recently. I'm not exaggerating. Something like five or six girls have gotten engaged in the last week alone. While I am not in a position in my relationship or life to get engaged right now, I can't help but feel left out — like I'm missing something.

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years.

Why can't we just love their love?! Yet, here you are, secretly thinking, 'why would she get a ring and not me?! It's the human condition, it's tribal. Everyone in your circle is undergoing a sort of change in 'tribal' status as she transitions to 'the bride' and you and your friends transition to 'the bridesmaids. This is about a life design.



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