10 questions to ask your husband every week
Author's Note: This post needed some art. Instead of attaching stock photos of some random happy couple, I thought I would include a few shots of a happy couple I know personally. But just to keep things honest, know that we rarely pose for pictures on those days when things aren't quite so happy. Weekdays are busy, but weekends are, too. We can find ourselves going months without having an intimate, life-giving conversation.
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It felt a little strange at first, but over time it became part of our regular rhythm and it has paid off in huge ways for us personally. I would suggest these questions to anyone who is married to improve communication and the quality of your relationship with each other. We have this discussion every week at the end of the week and make it mandatory for us. Yes, we have had to delay getting a chance to discuss these questions every now and then, but we still make an effort to make it happen.
Let me just make one point to husbands and wives real quick before I write out the questions. Husbands : It is your responsibility to initiate this discussion each and every week. You are the head of the household and the Bible says you are to love your wife as Christ loved the Church Ephesians You need to act like a man , step up, and lead and love your wife. Outside of our own relationship with Christ, your wife is the next priority and comes first, even before you.
Be honored and consider it a privilege that God sees you fit to lead and love your wife. Consider the Cross. Let Jesus humble you. Wives : You need to pray for your husband. Be patient and gentle with him especially as he makes attempts to lead. Encourage him in this process. There is nothing more powerful than a wife who encourages her husband. At that point, he feels like superman and will have an even stronger desire to lead you and love you the way you deserve. When not if he falls short of leading since he is not perfect , continue to encourage him and provide patience, he will eventually get back up and lead again.
Sometimes when we discuss this question ourselves, we have to go through each day on our calendars to remember what took place. The cool thing about this question is that over time, you can start taking notes during the week of when these moments take place so you can look forward to sharing it when you meet with your spouse. You actually get the opportunity each week to discuss how you felt loved so you know if you are both open and honest, you have plenty of opportunities with each other for encouragement and to share difficulties.
This is a great chance to now look at your calendar for the next week. There may be one week where the husband has a heavy load, so wives…you may need to help him a little more often that week. I personally have found that this question helps avoid surprises during the week for the most part , and provides opportunities to be intentional and actually plan out your days and evenings.
It is also probably one of the most difficult things to do for most people because we let the day attack us and have its way with us. By the time we remember to pray about anything, we are often falling asleep. There is something so incredible about humbling ourselves in our marriage. It creates a continued dependency on The Lord and both the husband and wife can come before God and present their requests.
I would suggest not only discussing this each week, but make time to actually pray with each other, on the spot. Similar to prayer, this question helps to make things very specific on how best to love and encourage your spouse. For example, Joelle can ask for prayer on opportunities to share the Gospel, but can also share that a way she would feel loved that week would be for me to spend more time with her.
Or maybe I could leave her a simple note in the morning to encourage her throughout the day. This question helps give insight and a tangible opportunity for us to love and encourage each other. Try to be as honest and specific as possible when answering this question. This question felt a little strange we laughed at first, but got easier with each week that passed by for us. There were times it even felt a little legalistic, but what I love about this question is that it helps make sex and intimacy a priority.
Your spouse might also surprise with you the answers. Husbands, pay careful attention to this question. Again, it is your responsibility to continue pursuing your wife and if she is not feeling intimacy within your marriage, you need to address that and step it up. Likewise for wives, this is also a big deal for husbands so take him seriously with his answers. Sometimes these conversations can last for 5 minutes, or for 45 minutes. Make time and be available for it to go either way.
You never know what the next week will bring you. This is only one tool and I know there are many out there. At the end of the day, the point is to be able to have open and honest communication with your spouse. There is no other relationship here on earth outside of your relationship with God through Christ that is more important.
Why not make every effort for improvement and to love each other? You may take all 5 of these questions or just 1 of them to discuss each week. You may even completely change them and adapt them to be a custom fit to your own marriage. Whatever you do, at least make the effort to work on communication. Husbands, take the first step every week to work on your marriage. Wives, have patience and encourage your husband in this.
Wherever you are at, pray that the Holy Spirit will lead you in this process. Ultimately, seek to have a God glorifying marriage with excellent communication. That will speak volumes to a culture that does not value this. It will be an opportunity for you to share with others what Jesus has done for you and how salvation is available to all Titus Thanks for this Mike!
Mike, you did it again. I printed it in order to use it with my wife. Love you brother! Thanks so much Alan!! I heard about this blog post from a friend in a small group way before I was engaged or married […]. The more open and honest communication you have with your spouse — like implementing 5 Questions To Ask Your Spouse Every Week — the […]. I ordered a love spells from drstanleyspelltemple hotmail. Stanley to cast a love spell on him to make him love me again and come back to me which he did and in the next 24hours after the spell was cast my man came to my house to beg for forgiveness and ask me to accept him back.
Thank you Dr. Mike, this is a beautiful post! Communication between spouses would seem so basic and easy but many times couples find that it is the most difficult thing to accompllsh in their marriage! What a great message and thought-provoking questions. God bless. Thank you so much! Appreciate the encouragement. It depends on how you are defining head of the household Nate. Mike is there any way to contact you either via email or private message? I have been searching for an answer for a very long time and wonder if you might be able to help me.
Good stuff, Mike! I know I need to do better in communicating with my wife and encouraging her in the way that she needs to be encouraged. I am going to make this list a habit in my house as well. Awesome to hear Matthew! Keep us updated on how things go with it! Just the fact alone that you want to love your wife should be a huge encouragement! I have been praying for a closer and more vibrant relationship with my wife for several weeks now so this post is an answer to prayer.
Thank you for your faithfulness, Mike. Great post Mike! Thanks Dan! It definitely takes a discipline for us to continuously communicate with each other each week. Thanks for the encouragement! I loved this and plan to use this.
Thanks for sharing! And I had a nice surprise at the end when I saw your bio, Mike, and that you are a minister at CC!
Have a great week! Praise the Lord!! Brother Mike. Thank you for sharing Godly wisdom. Sex, communication and money are the three main factors that need to continually be addressed in any marriage.
One of the principles of love that God has taught me is that — Love is always first given…and never first received. Thanks man! Basically, I will be held accountable for the state of our marriage.
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Communication, or lack thereof, is the root of all problems in marriages. If you have a hard time communicating with your partner, or even just want to take your marriage from great to outstanding, set aside some time each week to ask your husband these 10 questions. So simple, yet very rarely asked. Relationship expert April Masini states this is the most important question you can ask your spouse. Pull out the calendar and together discuss what each of you is doing for the week.
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It felt a little strange at first, but over time it became part of our regular rhythm and it has paid off in huge ways for us personally. I would suggest these questions to anyone who is married to improve communication and the quality of your relationship with each other. We have this discussion every week at the end of the week and make it mandatory for us. Yes, we have had to delay getting a chance to discuss these questions every now and then, but we still make an effort to make it happen. Let me just make one point to husbands and wives real quick before I write out the questions. Husbands : It is your responsibility to initiate this discussion each and every week. You are the head of the household and the Bible says you are to love your wife as Christ loved the Church Ephesians You need to act like a man , step up, and lead and love your wife. Outside of our own relationship with Christ, your wife is the next priority and comes first, even before you. Be honored and consider it a privilege that God sees you fit to lead and love your wife.
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